Saturday, February 10, 2018

our dream home

People have asked if we are building our "forever home" or if we are building "our dream home."

Short answer: No, not really.

Obviously, we are planning ahead when designing aspects of this home so that it will work for us in the future. We are leaving the basement unfinished so it can be a gymnasium for our kids until they need more actual living space. (Also, kids ruin nearly everything, so there's no need to finish the basement and then be anal about how it's being used when we aren't down there. "This is why we can't have nice things," is an oft-quoted mantra around here for good reason.)

Obviously, we would like to live in this home for a while.

But obviously, we realize that God is in control and could have us change our plans at any point.

That said, we are NOT building our "dream home." We are building a home we can live in and that we find mostly attractive, but because we want to steward resources well and plan ahead for when we will have bigger bellies to fill and more activities for which we have to pay (and college for four kids---OMGoodness), we aren't putting absolutely dreamy features all over this house. Maybe we will include a few elements we love, but this home will not be the whole shebang of awesomeness.

We are Dave Ramsey fans, so this process of building a home has been a smidge difficult to navigate with his ideal of paying cash for everything in mind. With a home, the ideal of paying cash is obviously not going to work, but with regard to some non-necessary features we find ourselves thinking, "Do we really want to pay for this extra feature for 15-30 years, thus making us pay triple the actual cost?" No, no we don't. (And of course, Dave has shared some wisdom regarding navigating the home-building process while sticking to a budget.)

Which is another reason we chose not to finish the basement right now. Our plan is to finish it with cash as we live here, but we will see how that goes. We'd love to finish a room and a bathroom sooner rather than later so we can house some college students down there. (And also so we can send our dirty kids in from the outside to use the basement bathroom instead of upstairs. That idea will hopefully help us keep the nice new things nice and new!)

So, while it's not our absolute "dream home"--harshly evidenced this week in the vinyl siding options from which we are choosing and the likely absence of large hexagon tiles from my laundry room--it's a solid roof over our heads and we are grateful for it. I like pretty things, so I hope to be able to make it pretty. However, we have specific desires for our home and how it will be used, and being dreamy isn't among the top 10 in that list of desirables.

And to us, the only "dream home" is a home without a mortgage payment. THAT would be dreamy.