Sunday, January 27, 2013

the myth: "adoption is so expensive"

i realize this topic is kind of jumping from one part of our lives (brecken's early arrival 6 months ago) to another (the adoption of our first son), but i have my reasons. i hope to be blogging more in 2013, but don't hold your breath waiting for the next post (who would?). i've got my hands full, people. this has just been on my mind...

i've had several conversations about adoption lately (which i am absolutely thrilled about!) and an overriding theme i'm noticing is that people make excuses. i'm not saying everyone needs to adopt, but if you do a quick check of the numbers you'll see that there are TONS AND TONS AND TONS of Christians out there who are not even considering adoption in the grand scheme of reproducing believers, and there are TONS AND TONS AND TONS of children who need families. there are around 100,000 orphans in the United States ALONE and 314,000 Protestant churches. if just ONE additional family in each Protestant church adopted a child who needs a family, we could easily eradicate the greatest form of poverty that exists in the US: the lack of family. i won't even start on international needs, but if you pay attention at all, you know that other countries are crawling with severely malnourished, sick, and abandoned kids (and some who are perfectly healthy in orphanages and foster homes) who need Mommies and Daddies. and you know what? it is our duty as Christians to care for these orphans.

one excuse i keep hearing over and over when it comes to adoption: "it's so expensive" or "we can't afford it." yes, it is expensive, but yes, you can afford it. i can't tell you exactly why it costs so much money to have a home study, file paperwork, pay lawyers, file dossiers, etc., but i can tell you that no matter how much it costs, it is absolutely worth it. not just worth it for you, but worth it for your new child and for many other people who see your example and consider making some sacrifices in order to give a child a forever family. God does not command His people to do something and then make it impossible to finish that task. there is always a way to do what God commands.

all that is not to say that brad and i were completely ok with the huge expense of an adoption from the outset. good grief, we are teachers. we were initially thinking our adoption would cost about $18,000 total. that was a decently large amount for us, and it freaked me out a bit, but we knew we could make it happen if we saved and budgeted right. i admit that had we known from the outset that a domestic adoption would cost $50,000 (our grand total), we probably wouldn't have had the faith to even begin an adoption. if we had done that and ignored God's calling for us, we would have missed one of the GREATEST JOYS and blessings in our life, Little Brody, and he wouldn't be in a great situation, either. obviously, he is so worth it, and so is any other child who needs a family.

i guess what i'm saying is this: if you feel even an inkling of a call to adopt, do not let the money scare you. money is just money, and there are ways to save/raise funds/earn more in order to fund an adoption. i wouldn't have to think very hard to remember numerous situations where we ended up with some extra money to help with our expenses, and i definitely believe that God orchestrated every event to complete the task He gave and continues to give us. He will do the same for you when you take the first steps in obedience and faith.