Friday, April 15, 2011

hearts change

an update as of this morning:

dna scheduling should take place next week (as long as everything goes well in planning with the dna company). the attorney says it usually takes 1.5-2 weeks to get results, but he thinks the woman he spoke to understood the urgency here and could hopefully get it to go faster.

the attorney also talked to the potential birth father (who is in jail) on the phone last night. the attorney said they had a decent conversation and that the guy's preliminary concern right now is whether or not he really is the biological father. our attorney reported that the man said he was open/not opposed to working things out with all parties involved (which would be us and the birth mother). the attorney told us he was afraid the guy would say "No, I want this baby no matter what." there's a chance he still might say that, especially if his family gets into his head (as we have heard they did in order to get him to come forward as the biological father), but it's a start. we also found out that he is in jail for something he did 3 years ago. he was arrested in june 2010 after a year-long investigation, so we assumed that meant that's when he was doing the drug thing, but maybe the investigation went back 3 years.

obviously we would love for the dna results to come back saying they are not a match, but what's done is done there. this guy's heart can still change, and that is our prayer. we pray that his heart softens to us and he signs off on this adoption plan. i have even considered writing him a letter to introduce ourselves and sending a copy of our adoption profile (could that be considered prison ministry?) for him to see that we are decent people who have already fallen in love with this baby boy.

strange how in the very beginning of our adoption journey we weren't thrilled about making an open adoption plan with a birth mother, but now we would be beyond thrilled to make any sort of adoption plan with a man in prison for trafficking meth. hearts change.

Proverbs 21:1 -- "The king's heart is in the hand of the Lord, as the rivers of water: he turneth it whithersoever he will."


  1. I'm praying for you guys! That God would give you grace and hope in the midst of this hardship. He is faithful and his mercies are new every morning.
    Meredith M Krishnan

  2. isn't that funny how the lord does that?
    we've been trying to get pregnant for 18 months & i've always been deadset against ever adopting... but the more stories like yours that i hear & the longer time goes by with no baby, the more god's making my heart turn toward adopting, not as a poor second choice, but he's causing me to really start appreciating the beauty involved in accepting a child who needs love into your family, regardless of who birthed that child. i'm encouraged by how fiercely you already love brody & am still keeping you all in my prayers.