Monday, May 12, 2008

Selfish silence?

"It wasn't that I was stupid (although a lot of teachers thought so when I first entered their classes), or that I didn't like people. It was just that there didn't seem to be a lot to say that someone wasn't already saying. I liked listening." ~Zinny in Chasing Redbird

Last week at a curriculum meeting some people were discussing their true feelings about such-and-such and/or so-and-so while I sat quietly. They commented on my silence, saying that they wish they could sit quietly without sharing their thoughts all the time.

Last summer my graduate professor told me he thought I was being selfish by not sharing more in class discussions. (This is because I did well on the written assignments and virtually never talked in class.)

If I would have been smarter in either situation, I would have told him what Zinny said.

Is silence always selfish? Is it sometimes selfish?